On
the 30th August 2017, The Nigerian Wedding Blog published an article
where the commissioner for Women Affair and Poverty Alleviation in
Lagos, Dr Lola Akande who was represented by Mrs Olushola Falana at an
event for Management of Domestic Violence. During her speech, she mentioned that women are the cause of domestic violence in Nigeria by their actions.
Mrs
Falana who is the Director of Women Development Department said vices
such as misguided utterances, infidelity, negligence and sophistication
by women are the reasons for domestic violence. However, she went ahead
to add that men that beat their women are beast and that no man should
raise their hand at a woman.
My View: This actually made me realize that our society needs more education on the subject of Domestic Violence. Domestic Violence by definition is the act of aggression towards any member of a family. When a family member is a victim of domestic violence, all members of the household becomes endangered and so is the society at large.
Considering the actual spectrum of domestic violence,
we will notice that the circle usually starts with violence towards the
mother and then the child or children also gets abused or traumatized
in the process (do not get me wrong, men also get abused but in most cases women and children are the victims).
Women’s
right a long time ago was just limited to the right to vote but now, we
are faced and still frustrated by a system that has an
unwritten code that a man’s home is his territory and what happens there
should stay there and you hear statements such as …it is a domestic
issue let them settle it amicably within the family.
We
are also faced by a society which makes the woman believe that she is
the reason for domestic violence. No woman, Child or Man deserves to be
abused for any reason and nobody deserves to stay in an abusive
relationship.
Should in case you find yourself in this situation run for safety and get help.
where to get help?
You can reach out to Project Alert, they stand for violence against women. They can be contacted via email on project@projectalertnig.org or call them on 08180091072
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