stop domestic violence

On the 30th August 2017, The Nigerian Wedding Blog published an article where the commissioner for Women Affair and Poverty Alleviation in Lagos, Dr Lola Akande who was represented by Mrs Olushola Falana at an event for Management of Domestic Violence. During her speech, she mentioned that women are the cause of domestic violence in Nigeria by their actions. 

Mrs Falana who is the Director of Women Development Department said vices such as misguided utterances, infidelity, negligence and sophistication by women are the reasons for domestic violence. However, she went ahead to add that men that beat their women are beast and that no man should raise their hand at a woman.

My View: This actually made me realize that our society needs more education on the subject of Domestic Violence. Domestic Violence by definition is the act of aggression towards any member of a family. When a family member is a victim of domestic violence, all members of the household becomes endangered and so is the society at large.

Considering the actual spectrum of domestic violence, we will notice that the circle usually starts with violence towards the mother and then the child or children also gets abused or traumatized in the process (do not get me wrong, men also get abused but in most cases women and children are the victims).

Women’s right a long time ago was just limited to the right to vote but now, we are faced and still frustrated by a system that has an unwritten code that a man’s home is his territory and what happens there should stay there and you hear statements such as …it is a domestic issue let them settle it amicably within the family.

We are also faced by a society which makes the woman believe that she is the reason for domestic violence. No woman, Child or Man deserves to be abused for any reason and nobody deserves to stay in an abusive relationship.

Should in case you find yourself in this situation run for safety and get help.

where to get help?

You can reach out to Project Alert, they stand for violence against women. They can be contacted via email on project@projectalertnig.org or call them on 08180091072